Just when you think you know all the possible outcomes of a scan…

So they have spotted some new areas in the lungs this time which they think are most likely cancer. Having more tests to confirm this before we plan the next steps of treatment. I have a lung biopsy next week which is obviously something completely new to me. I am anxious. Apparently it is not a big procedure but just the idea of something going down my throat into the lungs and then they take a sample. Doesn’t really sound very inviting to me!
They said i will be slightly sedated but not put to sleep. Really want it to be over with.

It makes me realise again that life has to be about enjoying the ride as opposed to waiting for this or that to happen first before we can enjoy it!

My colon is also not happy at all over the last month. Constant pain plus a very uncomfortable feeling after eating anything! I have been eating really healthy as well. Seeing my colon surgeon in a few weeks ( who removed the original tumour in 2019) to have a little moan. I didn’t want to contact him because i know he will probably ask to do more tests. But i have to be a big girl and know it is the right thing to do.

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My energy levels are still quite low so i make sure i use it very wisely whenever i do get any outbursts of it! I have downloaded a Meditation app which has made it easier for me. I have also started doing fitness to strengthen my body. In preparation for whatever the future holds.

The colours;
🏳️‍🌈 the beautiful sun 🌞
🏳️‍🌈 my daughter is home for the summer now💕
🏳️‍🌈 at least another week without treatment
🏳️‍🌈 the selfless people in my life who do whatever they can to make my life easier without me even asking!

So people often ask me what they can do for their loved one who has been diagnosed with cancer. This question comes up a lot because everyone wants to help. My advice is that if they are open to talking, then just ask them what they need. If they are too busy or not comfortable with that then think of things that you may be doing anyway and can do for them as well to ease their everyday stress. If they do not respond to that then give them the space they probably need. Reassuring them that you will be there for them whenever they need you.

Some suggestions of what you can do:

💝 tell her what days you are free and can maybe drive her (or accompany her) to hospital appointments or can go to her place and make her breakfast.

💝 if she would like it, be available to go to her place and take her for a walk or just a chat (maybe in the garden as she may feel uneasy about meeting indoors, especially if her immunity is low).

💝 if your child is in the same school or same age, offer to take their child for a playdate, park or help out with the school run. Maybe offer to do a regular day a week.

💝 ask her what school uniform her child needs and order for her. Even regular clothes. Shoes. With september coming up, everyone will need something.

💝 Send packed lunch for her little one after asking exactly what they like.

💝 find out what foods the family like and send. Don’t just send it…tell her exactly what day and what food so she knows and can plan accordingly.

💝 grocery shop. Say you are going to pass her house anyway so what can you get for her.

💝 send a little gift to make her smile.

💝 regularly tell her that you are there to talk whatever time. And genuinely be there. Sometimes she may just need you to be there with her. Just to get her through the day. Some days can be really hard but seeing someone you love can make such a difference!

💝 if you feel that she just needs space then give her that. She is working on getting herself better and will let you know when she is ready. Do send her a message regularly to remind her that you are still there. If she doesn’t respond. Give her time. Tell her that you are sending positivity, prayers and love from afar.

But make sure whatever you do is actually helpful for her situation as everybody’s circumstances are different. Make it straight forward and not a big deal. Otherwise you may be adding to her stresses.

It is really difficult for anyone to accept help so don’t force it. If you do help out then make sure you are doing it whole heartedly because you want to and because they want you to. Not because you feel that you should.

Remember that they are still a regular person, just having to take a slightly different route through this part of life.

Obviously, the same applies to a male friend. I have just referred to them as ‘her’ because that’s what i am lol!!🤩 Thank you everyone vecause these ideas come from you! Each one of you has helped me get through those good and bad days. Love you lots.

I hope this helps and thanks for being patient as i know i said i would share ideas quite a while ago.

Love you all. Sending sunny vibes 😎